Read this when you really need to let some shit go

If you're waiting for a sign, this is it.

I don’t know exactly what you’re holding onto right now, but I’m sure it’s heavy.

Maybe it’s something they said. Or maybe it’s something they never said.

Maybe it’s a moment that keeps replaying in your head over and over again, no matter how much time has passed.

Maybe it’s a version of you that was built to survive all the damage, and now you don’t know how to shed it.

Whatever it is, I see you. And trust me, I get it. I understand just how much it’s been costing you to hold onto this for so long.

So let’s work on letting all that go.

Sometimes we don’t let go because we think it proves how much we cared. We’re afraid that letting go means it didn’t matter to us. But that’s the farthest thing from the truth.

Letting go doesn’t erase what happened. It just gives you the peace you’ve been aching for.

You’ve done more than enough carrying it this far.

And this part, I really need you to hear…

You can let that shit go now.

Not because it didn’t matter. Not because it didn’t hurt. But because it’s still hurting you. And it’s taking up way too much space in your life.

You weren’t put on this earth just to suffer through it all. You’re here to live. Really live.

And honestly, it’s a miracle you made it through. The silence. The confusion. The crushing lack of closure. The betrayals. The fear, the doubt, the worry. The moments that cracked you wide open when no one was watching.

But you’re not that person anymore.

More importantly, you don’t have to be.

You don’t have to keep reliving it, hoping it plays out differently. You don’t have to punish yourself for how long you stayed. You don’t have to wear that pain like a badge of honor.

You are so much more than that.

You’ve already proven your strength. You’re strong because you felt every bit of it and you’re still here.

Now it’s time to start healing.

You don’t need their apology.
You don’t need a better ending.
You don’t need to explain why you’re finally ready to move on.

You can just let go.

Little by little.
Piece by piece.
Breath by breath.

You can let go of the guilt. The shame. The pressure of holding onto who you once were.

You can even let go of what you thought healing had to look like. There’s no one way through this. What matters is that you keep going. That you don’t stop. That you don’t turn back when things get hard.

Some days, it’s going to be quiet. Other days, you’ll be filled with grief. And then, one day, the joy will come. Either way, it’s all progress.

So:

Let go of the story that says it has to hurt forever to count.
Let go of the belief that your worth is measured by how much you hurt.
Let go of what you believe if it’s keeping you from becoming who you’re meant to be.

You don’t need the old way of doing things. You’ve outgrown that.

This next season of your life doesn’t require the weight of the past.

Put it down.

Let it go.
Let it hurt.
Let it heal.

Feel it all the way through.

Because what’s coming is far more exciting.

Evan Sanders

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